FEMALES.
We are some of the most distinct and intricate creatures that God had the pleasure of designing.
Men complain and say that we are nothing but picky and confused [among other adjectives], but what would they do without us? We keep them sane, we keep them looking their best, and overall I believe we are their motivation in life. I mean think about it, they want a nice job to make good money so they can buy the nice clothes, car, home, all things that will enthuse the female into hopefully pursuing them. Men criticize us enough, but they love us all the same.
We are strong. We are resilient.
I find it funny when guys claim they are "players" because they have had their heartbroken by a girl who they deemed to be special. They shut their feelings out and put up a wall and promise to never let the next one get as close. I laugh because I think about the many women who are wronged by men everyday. We hurt for sometime, cry it out, but eventually we get over it. I know, there's some women out here who are just bitter and will fault every man on the account of one's mistakes. But for the normal ones, we chuck it up and move on, in hopes that the next guy will be our "knight in shining armor". I never try to place my past on my future, somehow it seems like it puts a damper things to come. Optimistic.
We have it harder than males.
We're expected to behave a certain way. And if we don't, we're "weird" or UN-ladylike. Psssh. And nowadays with this society it even seems we're expected to look a certain way. Either you're super skinny with a model type physique or you're a centerfold vixen with curves that will kill anyone. There's not much to say for the "in betweens", or the ones who have a lil here&there. It seems that if you don't fit the mold, you grow old...FAST. smh. In my opinion, this definitely puts a strain on female's perspective of themselves. Everyone wants to be looked at as beautiful. And if everyone is constantly judging then how can you feel? I know, most people say "F*ck what people have to say about you" but at the end of the day, you want to be liked by someone right? Now I'm speaking on behalf of us women out here. I have no clue how males and their whole self esteem gauge works. I just feel like women have it harder out here and we are looked at microscopically for everything we do.
...to be continued.
Funny. One of my homies [www.thisisdope.tumblr.com] touched on a topic so similar to mine that I felt NOW was the time to continue my little rant. He talked about women and their ways and why a lot of them out here are single, bitter, and unhappy. It made me laugh. But then again, I'm like damn. HE'S RIGHT. -__-
Unrealistic standards are definitely a major factor in why soo many of us girls are a part of "team cold sheets". We CANNOT be expecting the nigga with the best body, flyest car, and Ph.D, while we only have our high school diploma and are shopping at Rainbow. NO m'aam. I never understood that concept. You should want to be on the same level as your mate. If you are not on top of your game why not find someone who is at your level and BUILD with him? Grow TOGETHER...I don't see anything wrong with that at all. Most men [if not ALL] love ambitious females. Women who are out striving to make something of themselves so they don't have to ask anyone for anything. I never understood the breed of women who expect their guy to take care of them. Now don't get me wrong, I do not have a problem with my guy doing things for me, but the problem comes in when you allow him to do everything for you while you sit back and do NOTHING. Newsflash!! Stop looking for these men to be your superhero!! I'll tell you, doing that will only get you where you were before him..ALONE. Idk. Maybe it's the product of nonexistent fathers. Sad, but true.
...& for some I believe they are that way because of what they have witnessed in their household growing up...it is a cycle. If the only thing you have ever heard your mom say about a man is that "niggas aint shit!" then what will you believe?
Shoutout to all the women in the world who vowed to not let the cycle continue and have decided to turn their negative perspective into a positive outcome.
I promise ladies, keep building yourself and in time the right guy will come and be all you want him to be. Watch.
<3.