Mothers are mandatory. Fathers are optional.
Seriously? I'm tripping. I have to be. There is no way in the world that this statement should be acceptable in our world. I know that it's the way things seem to happen but just because it happens often does that mean we should just sit back and allow for that to be the norm?
I recently had a discussion with some people about it and they said that's the way things are and it's expected. That saddens me greatly. I'm a twenty-two year old female who someday wants children. The idea of being a single parent does not sit well with me. Yes, call me crazy but I want a husband before kids. And I want the husband to be there. Not just because he's the father but because he wants to be. Nowadays though, that seems to be a fairy tale. And if you happen to find that then you're considered one of the lucky ones. Bizarre. In my eyes, our world is officially fucked up. And the only hope we have for finding that lifetime partner that everyone deserves is through prayer and faith in God. He'll send us someone. We can't leave it up to our own decisions.. The earth is tainted. People are caught up in the wrong things. Getting into relationships for the size of a chic's ass or the stroke of a man's penis is not ideal. No.
I guess father's are optional because people never plan to have a child with the person they lay down with. So when the girl finds out she's pregnant, the guy gets the pleasure of deciding if he actually has what it takes to be there for something he helped to create. While the girl has NO choice, because she's the one harboring the child for nine months. And if she chooses to abort, she's looked upon as fast or loose among friends and family. Sad. How much longer will we allow this to go on? Most say the reason this occurs is because some men don't have a proper example of a real man due to the absence of their father in the household but when will people stop letting that EXCUSE hold them back? You have to want to do better for yourself. Many women might grow up without the proper love they deserve but vow to not be the same way when they start a family.
So men, your role as a father is NOT optional. Regardless if the mother is your wife or not. You made a life, take care of him/her. They'll need you more than you think. Even if you're afraid, just take a chance, and just know that that child looks forward to you being there. And if you decide to punk out and runaway, that child will always wonder who you are and how you could have somehow made an impact in their life.